STOP COMPARING YOUR KIDS

Every parents want to see their kid performing well. In order to excel the performance of the kids parent compare them to the counterparts who is already and comparatively performing well. Parents are still living with the dogma that the comparing is the right way to encourage the kids to enhance the quality of output of their efforts. But it’s counterproductive. Comparing your kid to other kids will affect the upbringing and mental health of your kids adversely. It will even disturb your relationship with your kids.

Whenever you compare your kids to other kids, you are not only imposing unnecessary stress but also hurting their self-esteem. Weaker self-esteem will decrease their confidence level and will-power. Your kids will develop inferiority complex and their performance graph may decline to the worse. The probability of developing wrong habits also increases. The memory of being compared stays long in your kid’s consciousness and they live with the belief that they were not good enough for their parents. And this belief will affect the relationship between parents and children unfavorably. After being constantly compared for a long time , unfortunately, they will accept the thought of being not good enough. And their own pace will also gets disturbed. The comparison tactic for improving the performance of your kids has proved to be counterproductive most of the time. All kids are not same.

If you are a parent and reading this article then let yourself jump into a flash back tour. As a kid, a teen ager and an adult you might have come across lots of people of your age at that time. You grew up together. Now try to figure out where and what are they today. Is their physical, mental, personal, professional and social status is same as yours? The answer will be a big NO.

Trying to prove to the other parents that your children are better than theirs’s is hilarious and doesn’t make any sense at all. PARENTING IS NOT A COMPETITION. Its all about nurturing your child with love, care and proper guidance. Parents should encourage their children to believe in themselves , explore their potential and discover their abilities. Kids should be taught to enjoy and feel proud of their efforts. They should be raised in the away that the spark of self-motivation always remain fresh within their consciousness . Let them grow up independently without being compared. Every kids are different and special.