To forge character in kids, merely understanding of children’s psychology and behavior is never enough. Parents have to be well-informed about overall human behavior.
Children’s or not conditioned by birth. Their very first crawling begins over the mat of freedom. Their early vocalization is not influenced by any system or ideology. Their emotions are the outcome of the level of their physical comforts.
We must note that for any one who is not conditioned has uncontaminated taste of freedom. And discipline, compassion, love emerges automatically from someone whose soul is free. Conditions kills freedom and sprouts the self-doubt in them. Their very first challenge begins with bewilderment between what to do and not to do, what to speak and what not to speak, how to behave and how not to behave.
Never teach your children dos and don’ts based on social norms and interests. Let them know the moral background first. Let them understand that how it is going to help them to lead a blissful life.
As their natural tendencies have not been fully suppressed yet, the inbuilt drives keeps violating the children specific social norms. And the society doesn’t appreciate, validate or approve so called etiquettical blunders. Society approves perfections. No matter if you fake it. In fact, you have to fake it. There is no other way.
Hustle to achieve perfection in the parameters set by the society has nothing to do with inner growth in peace. Rather it’s brings deterioration in pieces of your individuality. Rejoicing in self becomes myth and pleasing others becomes the purpose.
Life becomes tough and suffocating when you are not you.
In fact, if we dive into the depth, we will realise that lack of perfection in human traits is perfection in itself.
I am not saying that children shouldn’t be instructed, trained or monitered. Actually it’s very important part of healthy parenting. Basic manners, humility, etiquettes , personal care, education etc should be gradually and tenderly instill in them. It’s a minor yet an important aspect. But as a parent you need to provide enough room for the emergence of their inner beauty. And that is the most important part.
- Never tell your children what he or she has to do or not to do just because society doesn’t like it. Let them know the moral background first. Let them understand that how it is going to help them to lead blissful life. If you want your children to be aloof of people pleasing attitude, you have to be one to abandon it first.
- You have to learn to respect individuality. Never compare your children with other’s kids. No matter if they fail or underperform.
- If you are capable enough to meet the intuitional need of your children , then never hesitate. If not, tell them that why you can’t. Don’t be sorry. Just be real if the circumstances are not in your grip.
- Children have to get good exposure around every aspects of life. Good understanding of identification and handling of negativity is as important as the instillation of positive attitude in them. (Everyone should understand that- It’s foolish to expect not to be eaten by a lion just because you are vegetarian)
- Children should be able to understand the background of every single emotions. Factors, effects and consequences. First the parents have to be aware of the awareness. Then only they can coach the kids.
- The spiritual inclination of children should be nourished properly. Parents should help their children to develop deeper connection with the nature.
Society is pretty cold towards individuality. Society wants everyone to adjust in the single frame. Society loves rat race. Society values machines more than emotions. Society appreciate numbers over quality. Society choose laughter over tranquility.
It’s a responsibility of every parents to showcase the world beyond the rat race. The profound gift of bliss which has nothing to do with material achievements.
And that is, the awareness of the self!!
SKETCH NEPAL 